This post shares how to overcome emotional triggers and what those triggers secretly revealing to you and your healing.
“That’s such a trigger for me.”
“I always find myself triggered when I see him.”
“You shouldn’t have said that – you know that’s a trigger for me.”
There’s a lot of heated emotion circling around right now.
The election served as a trigger for a lot of people. A lot of my clients and friends experienced a difficult time.
When I woke up the morning after the election, I honestly hadn’t even thought about it. I hadn’t even wondered who won.
You might be thinking, how could you not care?
I do care. I care very deeply about it, but I was able to have no connection or emotion to it.
Be the Tree
Think of a wise, old tree. When a storm rolls in and the wind blows as hard as it can, that tree gently flows with the wind.
It doesn’t get rigid, it doesn’t tip over, and it doesn’t snap in half.
It simply flows with the wind because the roots are so deep and so grounded that the tree is unshakeable.
That’s where you need to find yourself in your emotional center – grounded so deeply that your external circumstances are unable to elicit a dramatic response from you.
You don’t want your outside world to orchestrate your inner world. That’s not a healthy space to be in.
You want to be in a space that no matter what happens, you are unshakeable.
Reframe Your Emotions
This isn’t to say we shouldn’t have feelings.
Feelings are very important ways that our higher selves speak to us. We want to honor our feelings, invite them in, and use them as a powerful tool for guiding our decisions in life.
Yet, we don’t want them to take over.
Emotions shouldn’t dominate us for days on end, nor do we want our emotions to cause us to lash out at friends or family who don’t deserve that.
Basically, you want to create a new understanding of what the emotions are here to do for you and how they are meant to serve you.
When low-vibration, negative emotions are triggered, that is a sign for you to take a step back and recognize that this is a spiritual assignment for you.
Everything that comes our way is not by chance or accident. It is very intentionally placed in front of us as a learning opportunity.
It is working for our higher good. With universal energy, there are no mistakes. There are only lessons to be learned.
There are only spaces for us to be directed to while healing.
In recognizing this, you are learning how to overcome emotional triggers.
How Do I Stop Getting Triggered?
When you are having negative responses, the first thing is to notice is when you are feeling triggered. Then, ask yourself:
Where is there room for healing?
What emotions am I feeling? Anger? Fear? Depression?
What is this external reality that I’m tied to? What’s this expectation that I have?
What is this story that I have created that if things don’t go a certain way then my life as I know it will be over?
Ask yourself what is the assignment the universe is giving me?
Letting Go of Control
We get into these expectations.
Things have to go this way.
This specific candidate has to be elected or everything will be awful.
If I don’t get into this college, then my life is over.
We create these stories based on expectations of what we want. When we create these stories, we get in the way.
Let’s use college as an example: You didn’t get into choice A, so you feel like you are a failure or your life is over. Yet, it turns out choice B is a better fit for a lot of reasons. You are going to make better connections, you’re going to be happier, and you’re going to meet the future spouse of your dreams.
When we try to control our lives and it doesn’t go our way, we feel so much negative emotion, all this downfall because we are trying to control our external growth.
Yet, when we let go of control, we can realize that the universe has a better plan for us. We just don’t know what it is yet.
When you let go of control, you are taking a big step in realizing how to overcome emotional triggers.
When negative emotions come up, such as fear, ask yourself what am I really afraid of?
Is this triggering the past?
Am I living in a story that I believe is going to happen?
Am I afraid of any number of things?
Get into that emotion and ask what it is about.
It actually might not even be your emotion! You might be buying into the fear that’s coming from the media.
Is that fear really necessary? Bring yourself back to the present moment. Right here, right now.
You’re safe. You have food, water, shelter, and warmth. You have everything you need at this moment. This is the only moment that is real.
Be very careful about what you are doing with your emotional center. Are you giving away your power? Are you spewing your energy out into imaginary scenarios? Because life is going to go on no matter what happens externally.
There is a lot that is out of our control. If we worry, fear, and try to control every little aspect of the world, we end up just future-tripping all the time and not enjoying the moments that we have right here and right now.
Connecting to Your Spiritual Assignment
Spiritual assignments are lighting up for you with your emotional triggers. Trust that you are being divinely guided.
Any time you feel these negative emotions bubble up, remember this is your spiritual assignment.
What do I need to learn from this situation?
What is the universe trying to teach me?
Why is the universe handing me this lesson right here, right now and what can I gain from it?
What can I do so that the next time this situation pops up, I don’t lose my power?
You can change these triggers. Use your emotions to your advantage. You can gain so much grounded emotional stability and freedom. Then, what happens in your external world cannot ruffle your feathers.
That doesn’t mean that we don’t get taken out sometimes. It happens to me. However, the trick is that you will learn to catch it, snap yourself out of it quickly, and come back to your more-present state.
How to Stay Grounded
There are quite a few different ways that you can stay grounded in the moment. These techniques will definitely help you as you are learning how to overcome emotional triggers.
The first way is through is deep breathing. You can do this no matter where you are. Another is playing calm music. Both of these techniques will help you connect to calmness.
Another amazing tool for staying grounded and staying in your emotional center is meditation. If you haven’t meditated before, that’s okay! There are plenty of guided meditations out there.
Key Points for How to Overcome Emotional Triggers
When you feel triggered, those emotions are popping up for you to tell you that you have a spiritual assignment to do some healing work.
A lot of times we look to our external world for validation, security, happiness, and anything else that makes us feel that we are okay.
However, nothing external of us is ever going to make us okay.
You have to find emotional freedom within yourselves in order to be unshaken by external circumstances.
Surrender at that moment to what is in front of you, right here and right now. You can let go of the stories that you have created.
The stories are an illusion that does not exist yet.
You can become much more grounded here in the moment, like the tree.
No matter what happens, you will only sway. You will flow with the energy that comes your way. You don’t need to get taken out.
However, don’t let your roots get shallow, or the storm will come and you’ll get knocked over.
Do your inner work. Take on your spiritual assignment, and gain emotional freedom.
Grow your roots deep.
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